Does leisure make us happy? Often the answer is no.
Many people think that having lots of free time will make them happier. But research shows that happiness often comes from how we spend our time, not simply how much free time we have.
Many people think that having lots of free time will make them happier. But research shows that happiness often comes from how we spend our time, not simply how much free time we have.
Psychologist Laurie Santos says that many of us choose the easiest activities when we want to relax. We might watch television for hours or spend time looking at our phones. While these activities can be enjoyable, they don’t always leave us feeling happy or connected.
Researchers studied how thousands of Americans spent their days. They found that people were happiest when their day included:
- Time with other people
- Some physical activity, such as walking or stretching
- Meaningful activities, such as work, volunteering, hobbies, or helping others.
The message isn’t that relaxation is bad. We all need time to rest. But doing something that takes a little effort often brings us more happiness than simply sitting and watching TV all day.
Here are a few ideas that research suggests can boost happiness:
A conversation with a friend, neighbor, or family member can brighten your day. Even chatting with someone at the grocery store or in your community can help you feel more connected.
A short walk, gentle stretching, gardening, or dancing to a favorite song can improve both mood and brain health.
Read a book, work on a puzzle, cook a favorite recipe, knit, paint, volunteer, or help someone else. Activities that challenge your mind just a little can give you a sense of purpose.
At the end of the day, ask yourself:
- What made me smile today?
- Who am I thankful for?
- What is one good thing that happened today?
Taking a moment to notice the good things in life can help us focus on what brings us joy.
The good news is that happiness doesn’t usually come from doing less—it often comes from connecting with others, staying active, and finding meaning in everyday moments.